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Waiting for my real life

Posted by mbamommy on September 30, 2009

I’ve had lots of favorite bands in my life.  I’ve even had lots of favorite genres.  I went through the glam rock phase, the grunge phase, the classic rock phase (for my age group, that means Zeppelin, Pink Floyd and The Doors), the punk rock phase, the hippie phase, the Top 40 phase, the classical phase and the rave phase.  But, at the end of the day, I’d have to say that my reigning favorite musician is Colin Hay, former lead singer of Men At Work turned solo artist.

Why?  Well, there’s lots of reasons.  First, he has an amazing, distinctive voice.  Second, his songs and lyrics have some meat to them. Third, and most importantly, his music, one song in particular, seems to keep coming back to me over the years. 

I was first introduced to his music by an ex-boyfriend – probably the best takeaway from that relationship.  Boyfriend X played the song “Waiting For My Real Life to Begin” when I was getting ready to go to b-school in Michigan and leave him behind in Boston.  It became an anthem for that life Change and my impending breakup with Boyfriend X.  See, he wanted me to stay with him and I was waiting for my real life to begin.

Later, I introduced Colin Hay to JC.  He fell in love with the music as well.  His defining moment with the song was during Run ZMC’s birth.  Here’s an excerpt from that story:

The doctor came in and went over some last minute instructions with us. Then her beeper goes off, and she stepped out to check on another patient. The nurse followed, then returned and informed us that another mother-to-be requires and emergency delivery. So, we are now on hold, lying in bed, lights off, locked and loaded. We wait. Exhausted, Rebecca’s eyes are weary but open. I tried reading a book my boss gave me, knowing full well that whatever I read will be lost in a matter of hours. My mind drifted off to the song we heard earlier that day, and I realize how it now applies to us:

Any minute now,
My ship is coming in.
I keep searching the horizon ….
I’m waiting for my real life to begin.

When I was on maternity leave with Run ZMC, I’d feed him while watching DVR’d eposides of Scrubs.  The length of the show was perfectly timed with how long it took him to finish a bottle.  I was a huge Scrubs fan already….and it solidified one day when I saw this scene.  Colin Hay on Scrubs?  A full, sleeping baby?  This newly minted MBA Mommy couldn’t have been happier.

Later still, the song became a theme song for my brother and his wife’s wedding.  Granted, I’m not sure it was appropriate, given they knew the story of Run ZMC AND it’s not a very romantic, wedding-esque song, but up it went onto their wedding website.

And now the song comes to mind again as I prepare myself for my next big life Change (whenever that may be).  For some reason, I keep waiting for my real life: the next big thing, the next Change, the next challenge, the next opportunity.  When I was thinking about this blog entry, I started a mental checklist of everything I’ve accomplished in my 34 years on this earth.  High School? check. College? check. Traveled through Europe, Middle East, Australia and New Zealand? check. check. check. check. Partied my way through my 20’s? check. Master’s degree? check. Launched my career? check. Married the love of my life? check. 2 Kids? 1 Dog? 2 Cars? Suburban House? Picket Fence? check. check. check. check. check.  OK…so what’s next on the list?  Ah, yes, re-focus on my career….

And then it hit me.  I need to stop waiting for my real life because this IS my real life.  And it’s pretty damn good.  Colin’s words, yet again an anthem in my life.

WAITING FOR MY REAL LIFE TO BEGIN
Album : “Going Somewhere”
(written by: Colin Hay / Thom Mooney)
Colin Hay

Any minute now, my ship is coming in
I’ll keep checking the horizon
I’ll stand on the bow, feel the waves come crashing
Come crashing down down down, on me

And you say, be still my love
Open up your heart
Let the light shine in
But don’t you understand
I already have a plan
I’m waiting for my real life to begin

When I awoke today, suddenly nothing happened
But in my dreams, I slew the dragon
And down this beaten path, and up this cobbled lane
I’m walking in my old footsteps, once again
And you say, just be here now
Forget about the past, your mask is wearing thin
Let me throw one more dice
I know that I can win
I’m waiting for my real life to begin

Any minute now, my ship is coming in
I’ll keep checking the horizon
And I’ll check my machine, there’s sure to be that call
It’s gonna happen soon, soon, soon
It’s just that times are lean

And you say, be still my love
Open up your heart, let the light shine in
Don’t you understand
I already have a plan
I’m waiting for my real life to begin

 

And, just for fun, here’s a link to my favorite Dr. Cox rant.

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Groundhog Day

Posted by mbamommy on September 29, 2009

About 6 weeks ago, I found myself comparing my life to the movie, Groundhog Day.  I felt like I couldn’t tell one day from the next; they all seemed the same.  Wake up, make breakfast, get the kids up, drop RunZMC off at “camp”, Petite Syrah down for a nap, search for jobs, Petite Syrah wakes up, pick RunZMC up from “camp”, make lunch, both kiddos down for a nap, search for jobs, kiddos wake up, go to a mall to play because it’s so damn hot in NC in August, home for dinner, JC home from work, bath, bedtime, DVR and chardonnay.  The only variation was which mall we went to and when and how much each kid whined.

Not terrible, right?  It’s exactly what I signed up to do as a SAHM (just remove the job search stuff and add a little housework).  True, it wasn’t bad, it was just…..Monotonous.  And, I hate Monotony.  I’m one of those odd birds that thrives on Change.  Give me a comfortable, reliable situation and I guarantee I’ll figure out something to Change.

I was going to blog about it, but, as typically happens when things start to become Monotonous….Change happened.  You may have noticed that this Change coincides with my self-inflicted blog sabbatical.  Not a chance occurence, I assure you.

As is the case with Change, it’s chaotic in the process but eventually ends up for the better.  First, we got new countertops in our kitchen…which, of course, led to weeks of other work, including new lights, new cooktop, new sink, an enormous mess and many more days without a kitchen than I planned for.  JC came home one day when it was all done and said “Well, that wasn’t too disruptive.”  He almost turned to stone with the look I gave him.

Shortly following that fiasco (sorry, “home improvement project”), the job search started heating up.  All of a sudden, instead of having to pound on the door only to realize I’m actually pounding on a brick wall, people started wanting to talk to me.  Me?  L’il ol’ me?  Oh, how you jest.  But, it was true!  There happened to be a (small) handful of AMAZING companies that actually wanted me get my toe wedged into their door frame.  I was so excited I almost forgot that it’s a fairly herculean effort for me to leave the house by myself anymore.  I (rightly) assumed that these AMAZING companies didn’t offer free childcare for interviewees so I scrambled to cover my bases and to guarantee I left the house with no baby schmootz on me.  It worked, I interviewed, and I’m going to interview some more soon. (How AMAZING is that?!?)

Then came the beginning of school.  Or, as I dubbed it, FLU-ool.  Run ZMC was in class for a week when he brought our house down.  And, of course, this coincided nicely with our first trip out to Colorado to visit the g’rent’s for Rosh Hashanah.  My poor little Petite Syrah….snotty, off schedule, ears clogged, 7k+ feet elevation, and the only familiar things are big bro (off playing with the g’rents and charming the hell out of them), Mama (sick as a dog herself) and Bunny (which was only available in a strange Pack n Play).  Have I mentioned we don’t travel much?  There’s a reason for it – these kids are extra tough when they get off their nap schedules.  Granted, I’m guessing if I wasn’t such a stickler for their naptime, they may be more flexible to new situations.  But, man, how would I survive without their naps?  No Mommy-Needs-a-Break time?  No job search time?  Unheard of. 

But, I digress. 

Now that this Change is over, I have a beautiful kitchen, I have some exciting job leads, we’re all healthy and I’m back to Groundhog Day.  I’m torn over which I truly prefer: Change or Monotony.  On one hand, Change makes the days go quicker.  On the other hand, Monotony makes the days go slower.  I’m guessing there’s a happy medium somewhere out there…..and I’m guessing I’ll find it in the next Change.  I know I’m going to look back on this time spent with my babies fondly and yearn for mellower times when life is moving at warp speed.  And, I know I need to be careful with what I wish for, things somehow have a way of happening.

The good news?  The self-imposed sabbatical is officially over. LET THE BLOGGING (re) BEGIN!

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Moms Going Back To Work

Posted by mbamommy on August 4, 2009

I wanted to pass along a link to yet another great article about job searching.  This one focuses on women who’ve left the “working” world to raise their kids.  Sounds familiar, right?  Well, the main difference between these women and myself is they took significant time off (their kids are in their teens).

Not surprisingly, they’ve found it very difficult to re-enter Corporate America.  But, the article highlights some great strategies that everyone, not just Moms, should utilize while looking for a job.  For example,  work with other job searchers to tackle resume updates, stay involved doing non-profit or volunteer work and keep (or get) your skills up to date.  Each of these women seem to have found a different solution and all of which seem to work for them.

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Blogging and Searching, Searching and Blogging

Posted by mbamommy on July 28, 2009

Apparently I’m not the only one out there who decided to start blogging as a way to help them in their job search.  And here I thought I was so original.

What’s interesting about this article is that it showcases just how hard it really is out there.  A lot of the stories hit very close to home with me.  There’s no secret formula to finding a job.  Some people will relocate, some won’t.  Some will take a paycut, some won’t.  Some will switch careers, some won’t.  Some will start over, some won’t.

I think what people are looking for is a balance between paying the bills and doing something you’ll enjoy day in and day out.  At least, that’s what I’m doing.

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On the flip side

Posted by mbamommy on June 19, 2009

Apparently, the whole job search “thang” isn’t any easier for the other half.  Check out this article from a recuriter’s POV.

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